#26

4/19/18

11:00 am
Helser’s on Alberta

Each trip I take, I think to myself, “Will this be my last?”
If so, I’m grateful for my years of freedom, for exploring, for my health and financial stability to allow me to come and go on this specific trip. Someday it will all be gone and even more sudden, it could all be taken away.

Today I turn 26 and as I sit here in a cafe waiting for the special I ordered and listening to The Supremes come in through the speakers, I thank God for my 26 years of life and the privilege of being a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter, and the most rewarding of them all, being an aunt.

I’m a few months away from taking on a new role as a wife and my life and my freedom as a single woman will change. Everything will change.
Maybe this will be my last trip as a single woman but maybe not my last trip period.

– Rocio A. Vargas

Our One Year Anniversary

Earlier this month, Javier and I celebrated our one year anniversary and it was the most thoughtful and considerate date Javier has ever planned for us.

Once I walked inside his house, he had me close my eyes and led me outside where a candlelit table was waiting for us.

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Once I sat down, Javier served me steak and asparagus that he cooked specifically for this occasion.

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We talked and enjoyed each others company and ate our delicious meal and then Javier excused himself to go to the bathroom.
When he came back he brought out a card and told me that what it contained came from a letter he wrote three years ago but was not able to share it with me at the time because the time was not right. (I will continue this story in another post.)

I reached out for the card to read but he told me he would like to read it to me. It was the loveliest card he had ever wrote to me and even though I would like to keep what it said private, the words were strong enough to make someone cry.

When he was finished reading, I stood up to give him a hug and as we embraced I felt Javier shift and reach in his pocket and watched as he kneeled down and said, “Rocio, will you marry me?”

I smiled but was in shock as I looked at the ring in the box. When he stood up to place the ring on my finger, I said very loudly, “FINALLY!”
It has taken so long to get to this point in our lives but we are here.
We are engaged!

As we embraced, we heard loud screaming from behind the fence that startled us both and all at once we saw someone fall over the fence and two others walk through the gate. Once they got closer to the light, I realized it was Javier’s brother and two best friends.

Apparently Javier had planned for our best friends to celebrate with us after he proposed. He made a huge dinner and invited them over to sneak in the house while him and I had dinner in his backyard. His best friends apparently couldn’t wait and snuck outside behind the fence and recorded Javier reading that card to me and proposing.
After we all went inside, I was greeted by my best friends with balloons, cake, bottles, gifts and bouquets.

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We all celebrated together before we made our announcement public and it was very nice to live in the moment and be surrounded by our loving and supportive best friends.
We received so much love and kind words after we finally announced our engagement and Javier and I are both so very fortunate and thankful for everyone who has taken time to congratulate us.

While I am a very private person, I will share a few posts in the next few weeks about our relationship and how far we have come together, how special my ring is, our wedding plan and how my life will be changing as I prepare to become a wife.

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We are beyond thankful for all the family, friends and even strangers that have been so kind and supportive of us as we plan for our future together.

Thank you for reading,

R. Vargas

On Relationships….

You may have noticed that even though I am in a relationship, I am very private about it.
While I am very proud and privileged to be with my partner, I do not feel the need to broadcast our relationship and here are the reasons why:

  1. It is nobody’s business.
    This is the primary reason and will always be the primary reason.
  2. Nobody cares that you are dating. If someone is that interested in your relationship, more than likely it is because they do not have one of their own and if they do, could it be that maybe they are trying to compete?
    While there are some people who are genuinely happy you are dating, there will be several bitter ones who try to stay close for the wrong reasons. Be careful.
  3. I choose to not broadcast every single thing because I know there are many great men and women who view my content whether it is my blog, Instagram, Snapchat, or just talk to me on a personal level who yearn for a special someone but who have yet to make that connection. It is very difficult and hurtful to see someone or hear someone constantly throw their relationship in your face.
    You do not have to act like you are single or never speak of your partner, maybe just limit yourself and put their feelings ahead of your own.
  4. I feel like when you constantly broadcast what and who you have, it backfires on you. Whether it’s a breakup or you leave room for someone wanting to interfere in your relationship. It all causes damage. So again, I limit myself and set boundaries. Social media can be great but it can also be very dangerous when involving your partner.
  5. I truly feel that if you have a great partner, a great relationship and you are truly happy, you’re not going to need to post or constantly talk about how happy you are. People will know, people will feel that love when they see it.
    Real recognizes real.
    If you have to constantly put your business out there, who are you trying to convince? Others or yourself?

Remember these are my personal beliefs and opinions, you do not have to agree with me or like what I said.

With love,

– R. Vargas

Lesson of 2017

“If you have the money, the time and the health, go!”

This past year has been full of success and determination. I made an Airbnb account in January of this year and booked four different trips around Texas. (Click here to save $40 when you book your first Airbnb trip!)

I traveled around every two to three months and had the best company every time. Each trip was different but just as special.
I often get asked:

  • Why do you leave town so much?
  • How can you afford it?
  • Are you scared to go on your own?
  • How does your boyfriend feel about you leaving?

I simply say, “If I have the money, the time and the health, I’m going to go.”
You don’t even have to go far or stay for that long. Just go.

I save for months at a time, even working two jobs from time to time when I know I have a trip in mind. I budget and would rather my money go on a trip than material things.
If I have the dates off from work or find a three day weekend coming up, I take advantage of it.
I am a 25 year old woman who has yet to get married, does not have children or any major debt to hold her down. I am still young and healthy and before I settle down into marriage with a husband and maybe children or become the primary guardian for my aging parents, I need to do this now while I still can.


If your circumstances allow you to travel, go and don’t think twice.
There will be a time that you have the money and the time but your health has declined.
There may be a time you have the health and the time but you are too low on funds.
What if you have the funds and the health but you have no time?

When you have all three things lined up, just go!

– R. Vargas

The Sixth Month Mark

Today marks Javier’s and I’s six month anniversary.

While I know it’s not a huge milestone, it’s still something special to us because of the history we have.

We thought we’d share a little of what we have learned from dating in the last six months.

She says….

  • “Dating has been a lot more challenging than I thought it would be. I knew it would be difficult but I had no idea at how hard it would be.”
  • “There will be days where you want to quit, you want to give up, you want to go back to being single but those days will be outweighed by all the great days that have happened and that have yet to happen.”
  • “People won’t respect your relationship, not everyone will be happy. People will try to interfere, you will lose friends. BUT none of that will matter to you. You don’t let anyone ruin your relationship. Not family, not friends, not strangers, not exes, no one.”

He says….

  • “Personally I’ve learned to be more organized. More patient.”
  • “I feel humbled. I think before we started dating officially, I thought it would be a breeze but I know there’s a lot of work involved.”
  • “I’ve learned to be more grateful and I’ve tried to be more thoughtful.”

Here’s to six months and hopefully many more to come!

-R. Vargas

 

All photos were shot and edited by Jannet Medellin.

Shulammitegirl Snaps: June

During the month of June, I:

• Surprised my boyfriend with a date where we went to a batting cage & rode go karts.

• Had our family worship over purple triangle history and went to the Dallas Holocaust Museum Center.

• Climbed about 20 flights of stairs just for the view.

• Hosted an Italian themed movie night.

Xoxo,

-R. Vargas