Lesson of 2017

“If you have the money, the time and the health, go!”

This past year has been full of success and determination. I made an Airbnb account in January of this year and booked four different trips around Texas. (Click here to save $40 when you book your first Airbnb trip!)

I traveled around every two to three months and had the best company every time. Each trip was different but just as special.
I often get asked:

  • Why do you leave town so much?
  • How can you afford it?
  • Are you scared to go on your own?
  • How does your boyfriend feel about you leaving?

I simply say, “If I have the money, the time and the health, I’m going to go.”
You don’t even have to go far or stay for that long. Just go.

I save for months at a time, even working two jobs from time to time when I know I have a trip in mind. I budget and would rather my money go on a trip than material things.
If I have the dates off from work or find a three day weekend coming up, I take advantage of it.
I am a 25 year old woman who has yet to get married, does not have children or any major debt to hold her down. I am still young and healthy and before I settle down into marriage with a husband and maybe children or become the primary guardian for my aging parents, I need to do this now while I still can.


If your circumstances allow you to travel, go and don’t think twice.
There will be a time that you have the money and the time but your health has declined.
There may be a time you have the health and the time but you are too low on funds.
What if you have the funds and the health but you have no time?

When you have all three things lined up, just go!

– R. Vargas

The Sixth Month Mark

Today marks Javier’s and I’s six month anniversary.

While I know it’s not a huge milestone, it’s still something special to us because of the history we have.

We thought we’d share a little of what we have learned from dating in the last six months.

She says….

  • “Dating has been a lot more challenging than I thought it would be. I knew it would be difficult but I had no idea at how hard it would be.”
  • “There will be days where you want to quit, you want to give up, you want to go back to being single but those days will be outweighed by all the great days that have happened and that have yet to happen.”
  • “People won’t respect your relationship, not everyone will be happy. People will try to interfere, you will lose friends. BUT none of that will matter to you. You don’t let anyone ruin your relationship. Not family, not friends, not strangers, not exes, no one.”

He says….

  • “Personally I’ve learned to be more organized. More patient.”
  • “I feel humbled. I think before we started dating officially, I thought it would be a breeze but I know there’s a lot of work involved.”
  • “I’ve learned to be more grateful and I’ve tried to be more thoughtful.”

Here’s to six months and hopefully many more to come!

-R. Vargas

 

All photos were shot and edited by Jannet Medellin.

Shulammitegirl Snaps: June

During the month of June, I:

• Surprised my boyfriend with a date where we went to a batting cage & rode go karts.

• Had our family worship over purple triangle history and went to the Dallas Holocaust Museum Center.

• Climbed about 20 flights of stairs just for the view.

• Hosted an Italian themed movie night.

Xoxo,

-R. Vargas

Us


When I was a little girl, I knew I was an odd one because I never dreamed of my wedding, the dress I would be wearing, what colors I would choose for my theme, etc.
I didn’t have crushes often, I didn’t flirt, I didn’t doodle boys names on my binder, I didn’t care frankly.

As I grew to be a teen, I noticed the opposite sex but I still didn’t make any moves.
I got older and while I went on a few dates and got to know someone on a serious level, it didn’t work out and I know, it was for the best.

I am a very private person.
I’ve never felt the need to broadcast my entire life to feel important.

I take pride in all that I do and the decisions I make.
As of March 5th, I am honored to let my readers know that I am now dating.

I will not be posting how many bouquets he surprises me with.
How often he spoils me with gifts.
The amount of money and time he spends with me, for me, considering me, etc.
I could write volumes of books and fill them with all the wonderful things he’s done for me but even that would still never be enough.

I know what it is to watch others boast about how great their partners are and I think it’s really sweet but it’s not me and I know how much it can hurt a person.
There’s a fine line between being proud of the man you are with and there is another in boasting and wanting to make others jealous.

If I do post about him, it will be crafts or date ideas I do with him or for him.
promise I will not make you sick of him or us.

Know that I will keep our relationship private, know that we are very happy and know that we have come a long way.
Please respect our privacy. 

This will all be new to me so it is a learning process and while I am afraid of the unknown, I know that we are strong enough because we have Jehovah.

To those who doubt, who question, and who will try to intervene: Your time will come too. I promise you that it will.
It really is true what they say, that love finds you when you least expect it.
Try not to be so hard on yourself, I know it hurts and I know it’s not fair but it will find you and it will consume you. Let it.
You don’t have to like me, you don’t have to like my partner but we are happy, and we hope someday you are happy too. 

To those who support: From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Your genuine kindness is very much appreciated and will not go unnoticed.

To him: I know you have loved me for years now and while I tried to push you away, you stayed.
You gave me the best of what you had.
You constantly put me first.
You stood up for me.
You sparked the fire I thought I lost a very long time ago.
I was beyond terrified of commitment but I am now ready to give up my independence to be by your side.
I’ll admit that I will miss my old ways but I know that what I am giving up is nothing compared to what I am gaining.
Thank you for appreciating me, for accepting who I am,  for cherishing me and for being willing to try and tame me. Not everyone is as brave and not everyone has been as successful.
I’ll never know what you see in me.
I don’t understand how someone like me could have attracted someone as kind as you but here we are.
Your love for Jehovah is evident in the way you love and respect me and I could never repay you.
I love you and regardless of where we end up in the future, together or apart, you will always matter so much to me.

“I’m your girl and you’re my man, and we’re makin’ plans.”

 

Xoxo,

– R. Vargas

First-Aid Kit Board 

When I read this months issue of the Awake! I knew instantly how deep and personal it was for me.
I also thought it was very timely since February is National Teen Dating Violence awareness month.

The magazine discusses teen depression and what I really respect was that it shed light on how depression is an illness and disability.

Now when I was a teenager “depression,” was not classified as a sickness. It was just a word tossed around to make fun of sad and discouraged people.
Now mind you I was a regular teenager who had their highs and lows and thankfully I never stayed in a depression for too long but there are many people including adults who suffer from depression and never come out of it.

When I felt blue at the time, I just wanted to wallow in self pity. Now I turn to the bible and scriptures seem to be the only thing to bring me comfort.
This magazine was focused on young people and I felt it would be great study material for my oldest niece and I, especially since it had a special project for teens.
We read the magazine, took breaks in between and discussed personal things, read some scriptures together and after about an hour or so we ended our study, went shopping for some materials and headed back home to work on the project together.

The article suggested to create a “First-Aid Kit” for your emotions which included:

  • Contact information of people to call when you feel down.
  • Favorite songs that are positive and upbuilding.
  • Inspirational sayings and encouraging articles.
  • A list of comforting and upbuilding sayings from the Bible.
  • Mementos to remind you of people who love you.
  • A journal containing your positive thoughts as well as positive experiences you have enjoyed.
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Materials for the “First-Aid Kit” Board.

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Her journal for positive thoughts.

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Getting together her contact information to call when she’s feeling down.

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Mementos for her board.

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Her finished project. (She wanted to save room for more pictures throughout the year.)

I’m so happy we studied this article together and she opened up about personal things.
I can only pray she can grow up to be strong enough to seek help should she ever need it and rely on Jehovah someday.

Have you read the Awake! article yet? If so, what did you think?

Xoxo,

–  R. Vargas

 

 

Health & Happiness Update Pt. II 

This has been my second month having a gym membership and trying to live a healthier lifestyle.

Last month my main goal was to just be active and my mission was accomplished because I joined a gym!
This months goal was to research healthier snacks and meal prep plans.
I decided to cut back on junk food which is only difficult when I am craving Flamin’ Hot Cheetos.

Since I already pack lunches for work, I decided I would try to pack healthier lunches and incorporate more fruits and vegetables along with healthier snacks.

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Honey flavored Noosa yogurt with strawberries & granola.

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Baked chicken with vegetables.

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First attempt at prepping my meal.

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A homemade torta which wasn’t all that healthy but I did add some vegetables at the bottom.

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Baked vegetables drizzled with olive oil & sprinkled with a little salt & pepper.

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Baked drumsticks and veggies with a Cesar salad and a fruit cup.

I try to prep my meal the night before so all I have to do in the morning is gather everything in my lunch bag and head to work.

A few things that have worked for me have been to stock up on frozen chicken breast, drumsticks, tenderloins, thighs, etc. and divide the pieces in a Ziploc bag and leave one bag out to defrost and cook. Then I place the rest in the freezer so I don’t have to cook them all at the same time.

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I also bought frozen vegetables and bake them in the oven instead of steaming them. I feel it holds in more flavor.

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I even found myself ordering from the “Lighter Side,” of menus while dining out. (Pats myself on the back.)

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Baja Chicken from Cheddar’s

Another accomplishment for me this month was working out at the gym while my mother shopped around at our favorite thrift store. (There is a Planet Fitness in the same shopping center as that thrift store and instead of shopping, I dropped my mom off and headed to the gym.)
Since I have the PF Black Card membership I am able to visit any PF location so I made good use of it.

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I also added healthier snacks to my “snack shack,” at work.

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My drawer AKA snack shack at work.

I also had a doctors appointment this month and had some blood work done.
I was sure my doctor would tell me that I was borderline diabetic or had a high cholesterol but to my surprise she commended me on exercising and on eating healthier.
A few days later when my blood work results came back, she called me and told me everything looked great and to keep up the great work!
I was so relieved. I just need to keep this up and continue to make healthier choices.

With the small changes I have made, I have noticed my hair thickening, my face being less oily, and less feelings of fatigue.

 

Any healthy recipes or tips you can share with me?

Xoxo,

-R. Vargas