Lesson of 2017

“If you have the money, the time and the health, go!”

This past year has been full of success and determination. I made an Airbnb account in January of this year and booked four different trips around Texas. (Click here to save $40 when you book your first Airbnb trip!)

I traveled around every two to three months and had the best company every time. Each trip was different but just as special.
I often get asked:

  • Why do you leave town so much?
  • How can you afford it?
  • Are you scared to go on your own?
  • How does your boyfriend feel about you leaving?

I simply say, “If I have the money, the time and the health, I’m going to go.”
You don’t even have to go far or stay for that long. Just go.

I save for months at a time, even working two jobs from time to time when I know I have a trip in mind. I budget and would rather my money go on a trip than material things.
If I have the dates off from work or find a three day weekend coming up, I take advantage of it.
I am a 25 year old woman who has yet to get married, does not have children or any major debt to hold her down. I am still young and healthy and before I settle down into marriage with a husband and maybe children or become the primary guardian for my aging parents, I need to do this now while I still can.


If your circumstances allow you to travel, go and don’t think twice.
There will be a time that you have the money and the time but your health has declined.
There may be a time you have the health and the time but you are too low on funds.
What if you have the funds and the health but you have no time?

When you have all three things lined up, just go!

– R. Vargas

Three Year Blogiversary

Today marks my three year anniversary running a blog and documenting my highs and lows in life.
Over the past three years I have documented my relationships with family and friends, my crafts and DIY projects, my baking and cooking skills and most importantly my spiritual growth.
I really don’t know if I will ever stop blogging or stop sharing bits and pieces of my life but I know I have no intention on stopping any time soon.

If you are a loyal follower of mine, you may have noticed that I took my site down for a few weeks. It was under construction and I am really happy with the outcome of the layout, theme and new additions. I hope you all like it too!

In honor of my, “blogiversary,” I had a mini photo shoot to celebrate!

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Thank you for all the love and support throughout the years everyone.

Xoxo,

-R. Vargas

| All photography credit is due to the services of Javier Garcia.

25 Things I’ve Learned in 25 Years

This week I turned 25 years old and I spent the week reflecting on my past, my present and my future.

Here is what I have learned:

  1. It is OK to cry. It does not make you any weaker. If anything, it means you are growing, maturing and allowing yourself to feel some type of emotion.
  2. As a little girl, your mothers independence was something you always aspired to have. Even as an adult, she is still your hero.
  3. Love will find you. Let love in. Love always wins. Love moves towards love.
  4. Calling and visiting your grandparents is the greatest contribution to this earth you could ever give. Life is constantly moving and it stops for no one but it does slow down for them. Appreciate them while you still have them.
  5. Loyalty will always be the most powerful word in your vocabulary.
  6. You can build a reputation of not being friendly because you do not smile as much as you possibly can.
  7. Waving at random children just to see if they will wave back is one of your favorite things to do.
  8. Mexican men who have labor jobs are the hardest working men in this country.
  9. Value Jehovah’s creation at every moment.
  10. Never stop photographing moments or things.
  11. You will never be too old for one of dads lectures. Just listen.
  12. Have patience with others. Most importantly have patience with yourself.
  13. When one door closes, Jehovah opens another on his time.
  14. If you talk a big game, you better back it up.
  15. Always be proud of who you are and what you are.
  16. It’s never too late to take care of your body or to try and improve.
  17. Be encouraged every day.
  18. Surround yourself with story tellers.
  19. You’re never too grown for a piggy bank. Save your money!
  20. You are privileged.
  21. The beauty of pain is that it is only temporary.
  22. God is always with you.
  23. Love should never be mediocre.
  24. Remain humble. There will always be someone better than you.
  25. You have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

 

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Us


When I was a little girl, I knew I was an odd one because I never dreamed of my wedding, the dress I would be wearing, what colors I would choose for my theme, etc.
I didn’t have crushes often, I didn’t flirt, I didn’t doodle boys names on my binder, I didn’t care frankly.

As I grew to be a teen, I noticed the opposite sex but I still didn’t make any moves.
I got older and while I went on a few dates and got to know someone on a serious level, it didn’t work out and I know, it was for the best.

I am a very private person.
I’ve never felt the need to broadcast my entire life to feel important.

I take pride in all that I do and the decisions I make.
As of March 5th, I am honored to let my readers know that I am now dating.

I will not be posting how many bouquets he surprises me with.
How often he spoils me with gifts.
The amount of money and time he spends with me, for me, considering me, etc.
I could write volumes of books and fill them with all the wonderful things he’s done for me but even that would still never be enough.

I know what it is to watch others boast about how great their partners are and I think it’s really sweet but it’s not me and I know how much it can hurt a person.
There’s a fine line between being proud of the man you are with and there is another in boasting and wanting to make others jealous.

If I do post about him, it will be crafts or date ideas I do with him or for him.
promise I will not make you sick of him or us.

Know that I will keep our relationship private, know that we are very happy and know that we have come a long way.
Please respect our privacy. 

This will all be new to me so it is a learning process and while I am afraid of the unknown, I know that we are strong enough because we have Jehovah.

To those who doubt, who question, and who will try to intervene: Your time will come too. I promise you that it will.
It really is true what they say, that love finds you when you least expect it.
Try not to be so hard on yourself, I know it hurts and I know it’s not fair but it will find you and it will consume you. Let it.
You don’t have to like me, you don’t have to like my partner but we are happy, and we hope someday you are happy too. 

To those who support: From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Your genuine kindness is very much appreciated and will not go unnoticed.

To him: I know you have loved me for years now and while I tried to push you away, you stayed.
You gave me the best of what you had.
You constantly put me first.
You stood up for me.
You sparked the fire I thought I lost a very long time ago.
I was beyond terrified of commitment but I am now ready to give up my independence to be by your side.
I’ll admit that I will miss my old ways but I know that what I am giving up is nothing compared to what I am gaining.
Thank you for appreciating me, for accepting who I am,  for cherishing me and for being willing to try and tame me. Not everyone is as brave and not everyone has been as successful.
I’ll never know what you see in me.
I don’t understand how someone like me could have attracted someone as kind as you but here we are.
Your love for Jehovah is evident in the way you love and respect me and I could never repay you.
I love you and regardless of where we end up in the future, together or apart, you will always matter so much to me.

“I’m your girl and you’re my man, and we’re makin’ plans.”

 

Xoxo,

– R. Vargas

The Teacher

Webster’s Dictionary defines the word teacher as “one that teaches.”
The word teaches is defined as, “to cause to know something :  to cause to know how.”

I firmly believe that in each friendship a person has, you have a teacher.
You are taught things without even really knowing at that moment, you receive counsel and feedback, you grow to admire the person as well as the many things they show you.

Even though I am older and more experienced in some things, I always felt like the teacher in this friendship until this past year.

You’ve taught me how to love even when I did not want to open up, showed me what it is to be kind and forgiving, displayed how much devotion one can give to their family, how much passion one can have, how self sacrificing it is to put another persons needs before your own, how much devotion and dedication you give to our Grand Creator, how giving of your time you spend for Jehovah and the organization and above all, you have taught me how to be patient with myself and all the circumstances I may find myself in.

Thank you for the lessons you’ve taught me, for the year that you have shared with me, for the memories that we made, and for the promises you have kept.

The student and best friend,

– Rocio A. Vargas

Health & Happiness

If you know me personally, you know that I’ve always been on the chunky side and if you don’t know me personally, now you know.

Truth is, I’ve never been uncomfortable with my weight because I never really cared much to be skinny or to gain anyone’s approval.
I’m not afraid of the word, “fat.”
I’m not afraid of stretch marks.
I’m not afraid to shop in the larger section of shops.
But what I am afraid of is declining health.

Like everyone, health issues run in my family and as I get older I am more at risk.
True, I’ve always known that but I didn’t realize the impact it had on me personally until last October.

Last October, my grandmother, the woman who helped raise me was admitted to the hospital and had to have a major surgery.
A week prior to the surgery, my grandmother was staying at the hospital and I was there every day.
I would sleep in the uncomfortable visitor chair at night and when the daytime came, I would drive home, shower, go to work and after work I would return to my grandmothers side and that awful chair.

While I stayed in the hospital, I really studied my grandmother and how much she’s aged. I guess as a grandchild you view your grandparents as strong and happy as they used to be when they would take care of you.
As I sat in my chair, I looked at her full head of grey and white hair, I heard her horrible coughs, and as hard as she tried to stop me, I was present when she had minor accidents in bed.
The first two days she would alarm a nurse to come in and help her since she was unable to lift herself from the bed due to weakness.
But on that third day when she had another accident, I couldn’t sit back and let some stranger tend to her while I stood outside.

I put on some gloves and did my best to lift certain parts of her to clean her and change the linen on the bed.
As I wiped her and freshened her up, I could see tears rolling down her face.
She apologized and I assured her it was my responsibility and duty as her grandchild to tend to her and that what I was doing was not for her but for me. I expressed to her that it made me feel like I could help ease her pain.
She kept apologizing over and over again until her voice began to crack and I assured her that I wanted to help.

After I finished cleaning up, I told her I was going to dispose of the dirty linen and wash my hands.
I went into the restroom and disposed of the gloves and linen and I held on to the sink and began to cry.
What do you do when the woman who took care of you for so many years can no longer take care of herself?
I couldn’t do much but cry.
After a few minutes in the restroom I got a hold of myself and wiped my tears and went back to my grandmothers bedside.

Since that time I have been very worried about my health because when the day comes that I have to take care of my parents in that same way and I am larger than what I am now, it’s going to be very difficult if I’m not in good health or a decent shape.
God forbid some day I get sick or become unable to take care of myself and my aging parents have to tend to me as if I am still a baby.

No one will take care of my parents the way that I will, so I finally made the move to join a gym to prevent any kind of health issues that come from being overweight.

I am NOT going to the gym to get skinny.
I am NOT going to the gym for anyone else but myself.
I am NOT going to the gym to boost my confidence because small or large, I know my value.
I AM going to the gym to take care of myself so that I may take care of my parents in the near future.
Before I start working on my outside appearance, I’d like to first work on my insides.

I have been working out for a little over three weeks and while I don’t have set days, I do work out three times a week for an hour or more.
Each month I would like to set a goal and accomplish it and post my achievements.
The first months goal was to simply be active. So far so good.

I thought I was going to dread going to the gym or maybe be insecure about working out around fit people but the truth is I enjoy going because I see it as, me time and everyone at the gym is there for the same reason: to exercise and improve their health for whatever reason.

Since I have made the move of joining the gym, I’ve had the opportunity to encourage and support my mother who has been unhappy about her weight so at least once a week, she joins me.


She’s a bit embarrassed but I tell her, “One step at a time mom.”

I haven’t made drastic changes but I am trying to learn portion control and cook and eat healthier meals.

My mom and I alternate from Dairy Queen Dates to Panera Dates.

Pesto pasta with lemon pepper chicken.



Taking care of my parents is my number one priority. In order to take care of them, I need to take care of myself.

This is my health & happiness story.
What’s yours?

Xoxo,

– R. Vargas

 

 

 

Shulammite Spotlight

As a new series to my blog, I would like to introduce, “Shulammite Spotlight,” where I will be spotlighting some of my favorite bloggers that I keep up with weekly. 

Thank you to Rhanda who initially created this series on her blog! 

The first blogger I would like to introduce is Ghenet from Ghenet Actually.

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I came across her blog looking for DIY blogs and just from clicking her link I instantly fell in love.
I’ve been obsessed with her lifestyle blog for over a year now and have the privilege of actually having her permission to share her blog content and pictures.

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She is from New York originally but moved to the UK to be with her husband.
Her blog content ranges everywhere from crafts, DIY’s, fashion, make up + beauty reviews, recipes, and last but not least her scenery and travels around London.

So far I’ve had to say my absolute favorite post of hers is her wedding post.
She was involved in every single detail of her wedding. She put the centerpieces on her tables together and in such a cute way, she even baked everything on her dessert table!

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If you enjoy the simplicity and homely feeling of my blog, you will fall in love with hers! You can also follow her along on Snapchat and Instagram.

Hope you’ve enjoyed my share!

– R. Vargas

All photos belong to Ghenet Pinderhughes Randal.