#26

4/19/18

11:00 am
Helser’s on Alberta

Each trip I take, I think to myself, “Will this be my last?”
If so, I’m grateful for my years of freedom, for exploring, for my health and financial stability to allow me to come and go on this specific trip. Someday it will all be gone and even more sudden, it could all be taken away.

Today I turn 26 and as I sit here in a cafe waiting for the special I ordered and listening to The Supremes come in through the speakers, I thank God for my 26 years of life and the privilege of being a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter, and the most rewarding of them all, being an aunt.

I’m a few months away from taking on a new role as a wife and my life and my freedom as a single woman will change. Everything will change.
Maybe this will be my last trip as a single woman but maybe not my last trip period.

– Rocio A. Vargas

Four Generations

The engagement ring that I now wear has been passed down from generation to generation in my family.
It belonged to my great grandmother and a few months before Javier and I got engaged, the ring was passed down to me.

This ring is from the early 1940’s so when it was given to me, it was not in the best condition. It needed to be repaired and adjusted in more than one way but to know that I was trusted with this ring meant everything to me.
A ring is just a ring but to know that the generation of women who wore it before me stayed with their husbands until death, it’s very heavy.

When I received this ring, I knew this was the ring I wanted to wear throughout my marriage.
Prior to the engagement, Javier had the engagement ring and wedding band repaired, resized, added diamonds, polished and cleaned for the proposal.
I had only saw the rings in the original state so when Javier proposed, I was mesmerized at how beautiful the rings turned out to be.

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I look down at my ring and think of the dedication and hard work the women who wore it before me put into their marriage and how their examples have shown me the  capable wife I can and will become.

“Who can find a capable wife?
Her value is far more than that of corals.
Her husband trusts her from his heart,
And
he lacks nothing of value.
She rewards him with good, not bad,
All the days of her life.”

– Proverbs 31:10-12

With love,

– R. Vargas

On Relationships….

You may have noticed that even though I am in a relationship, I am very private about it.
While I am very proud and privileged to be with my partner, I do not feel the need to broadcast our relationship and here are the reasons why:

  1. It is nobody’s business.
    This is the primary reason and will always be the primary reason.
  2. Nobody cares that you are dating. If someone is that interested in your relationship, more than likely it is because they do not have one of their own and if they do, could it be that maybe they are trying to compete?
    While there are some people who are genuinely happy you are dating, there will be several bitter ones who try to stay close for the wrong reasons. Be careful.
  3. I choose to not broadcast every single thing because I know there are many great men and women who view my content whether it is my blog, Instagram, Snapchat, or just talk to me on a personal level who yearn for a special someone but who have yet to make that connection. It is very difficult and hurtful to see someone or hear someone constantly throw their relationship in your face.
    You do not have to act like you are single or never speak of your partner, maybe just limit yourself and put their feelings ahead of your own.
  4. I feel like when you constantly broadcast what and who you have, it backfires on you. Whether it’s a breakup or you leave room for someone wanting to interfere in your relationship. It all causes damage. So again, I limit myself and set boundaries. Social media can be great but it can also be very dangerous when involving your partner.
  5. I truly feel that if you have a great partner, a great relationship and you are truly happy, you’re not going to need to post or constantly talk about how happy you are. People will know, people will feel that love when they see it.
    Real recognizes real.
    If you have to constantly put your business out there, who are you trying to convince? Others or yourself?

Remember these are my personal beliefs and opinions, you do not have to agree with me or like what I said.

With love,

– R. Vargas

Lesson of 2017

“If you have the money, the time and the health, go!”

This past year has been full of success and determination. I made an Airbnb account in January of this year and booked four different trips around Texas. (Click here to save $40 when you book your first Airbnb trip!)

I traveled around every two to three months and had the best company every time. Each trip was different but just as special.
I often get asked:

  • Why do you leave town so much?
  • How can you afford it?
  • Are you scared to go on your own?
  • How does your boyfriend feel about you leaving?

I simply say, “If I have the money, the time and the health, I’m going to go.”
You don’t even have to go far or stay for that long. Just go.

I save for months at a time, even working two jobs from time to time when I know I have a trip in mind. I budget and would rather my money go on a trip than material things.
If I have the dates off from work or find a three day weekend coming up, I take advantage of it.
I am a 25 year old woman who has yet to get married, does not have children or any major debt to hold her down. I am still young and healthy and before I settle down into marriage with a husband and maybe children or become the primary guardian for my aging parents, I need to do this now while I still can.


If your circumstances allow you to travel, go and don’t think twice.
There will be a time that you have the money and the time but your health has declined.
There may be a time you have the health and the time but you are too low on funds.
What if you have the funds and the health but you have no time?

When you have all three things lined up, just go!

– R. Vargas

Three Year Blogiversary

Today marks my three year anniversary running a blog and documenting my highs and lows in life.
Over the past three years I have documented my relationships with family and friends, my crafts and DIY projects, my baking and cooking skills and most importantly my spiritual growth.
I really don’t know if I will ever stop blogging or stop sharing bits and pieces of my life but I know I have no intention on stopping any time soon.

If you are a loyal follower of mine, you may have noticed that I took my site down for a few weeks. It was under construction and I am really happy with the outcome of the layout, theme and new additions. I hope you all like it too!

In honor of my, “blogiversary,” I had a mini photo shoot to celebrate!

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Thank you for all the love and support throughout the years everyone.

Xoxo,

-R. Vargas

| All photography credit is due to the services of Javier Garcia.

25 Things I’ve Learned in 25 Years

This week I turned 25 years old and I spent the week reflecting on my past, my present and my future.

Here is what I have learned:

  1. It is OK to cry. It does not make you any weaker. If anything, it means you are growing, maturing and allowing yourself to feel some type of emotion.
  2. As a little girl, your mothers independence was something you always aspired to have. Even as an adult, she is still your hero.
  3. Love will find you. Let love in. Love always wins. Love moves towards love.
  4. Calling and visiting your grandparents is the greatest contribution to this earth you could ever give. Life is constantly moving and it stops for no one but it does slow down for them. Appreciate them while you still have them.
  5. Loyalty will always be the most powerful word in your vocabulary.
  6. You can build a reputation of not being friendly because you do not smile as much as you possibly can.
  7. Waving at random children just to see if they will wave back is one of your favorite things to do.
  8. Mexican men who have labor jobs are the hardest working men in this country.
  9. Value Jehovah’s creation at every moment.
  10. Never stop photographing moments or things.
  11. You will never be too old for one of dads lectures. Just listen.
  12. Have patience with others. Most importantly have patience with yourself.
  13. When one door closes, Jehovah opens another on his time.
  14. If you talk a big game, you better back it up.
  15. Always be proud of who you are and what you are.
  16. It’s never too late to take care of your body or to try and improve.
  17. Be encouraged every day.
  18. Surround yourself with story tellers.
  19. You’re never too grown for a piggy bank. Save your money!
  20. You are privileged.
  21. The beauty of pain is that it is only temporary.
  22. God is always with you.
  23. Love should never be mediocre.
  24. Remain humble. There will always be someone better than you.
  25. You have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else.

 

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Us


When I was a little girl, I knew I was an odd one because I never dreamed of my wedding, the dress I would be wearing, what colors I would choose for my theme, etc.
I didn’t have crushes often, I didn’t flirt, I didn’t doodle boys names on my binder, I didn’t care frankly.

As I grew to be a teen, I noticed the opposite sex but I still didn’t make any moves.
I got older and while I went on a few dates and got to know someone on a serious level, it didn’t work out and I know, it was for the best.

I am a very private person.
I’ve never felt the need to broadcast my entire life to feel important.

I take pride in all that I do and the decisions I make.
As of March 5th, I am honored to let my readers know that I am now dating.

I will not be posting how many bouquets he surprises me with.
How often he spoils me with gifts.
The amount of money and time he spends with me, for me, considering me, etc.
I could write volumes of books and fill them with all the wonderful things he’s done for me but even that would still never be enough.

I know what it is to watch others boast about how great their partners are and I think it’s really sweet but it’s not me and I know how much it can hurt a person.
There’s a fine line between being proud of the man you are with and there is another in boasting and wanting to make others jealous.

If I do post about him, it will be crafts or date ideas I do with him or for him.
promise I will not make you sick of him or us.

Know that I will keep our relationship private, know that we are very happy and know that we have come a long way.
Please respect our privacy. 

This will all be new to me so it is a learning process and while I am afraid of the unknown, I know that we are strong enough because we have Jehovah.

To those who doubt, who question, and who will try to intervene: Your time will come too. I promise you that it will.
It really is true what they say, that love finds you when you least expect it.
Try not to be so hard on yourself, I know it hurts and I know it’s not fair but it will find you and it will consume you. Let it.
You don’t have to like me, you don’t have to like my partner but we are happy, and we hope someday you are happy too. 

To those who support: From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Your genuine kindness is very much appreciated and will not go unnoticed.

To him: I know you have loved me for years now and while I tried to push you away, you stayed.
You gave me the best of what you had.
You constantly put me first.
You stood up for me.
You sparked the fire I thought I lost a very long time ago.
I was beyond terrified of commitment but I am now ready to give up my independence to be by your side.
I’ll admit that I will miss my old ways but I know that what I am giving up is nothing compared to what I am gaining.
Thank you for appreciating me, for accepting who I am,  for cherishing me and for being willing to try and tame me. Not everyone is as brave and not everyone has been as successful.
I’ll never know what you see in me.
I don’t understand how someone like me could have attracted someone as kind as you but here we are.
Your love for Jehovah is evident in the way you love and respect me and I could never repay you.
I love you and regardless of where we end up in the future, together or apart, you will always matter so much to me.

“I’m your girl and you’re my man, and we’re makin’ plans.”

 

Xoxo,

– R. Vargas