Reasons why I wear my mothers wedding band:

Cheʹsedh: The Hebrew word for loyal love.
Love motivated by commitment, integrity, loyalty, and deep attachment. It is often used in connection with God’s love for humans, but it is also love shown between humans. 

The Watchtower published by Jehovah’s Witnesses are always insightful. Without a doubt they bring you the proper spiritual food you need at the proper time.

For the past three weeks worldwide, we have studied three articles regarding the topic of marriage. Though I am not married nor dating, the articles have made me realize several things.

While reading and meditating alone, I often think of my parents marriage.
I think of the highs and lows, the good and the bad, the many benefits my parents have reaped together but also the many downfalls they’ve had apart, but most importantly, I think of the dedication my mother has put into her marriage to make it work.

Growing up, I noticed the times my parents were together and I also noticed the many times they were miserable and separate.

I could never understand why as a little girl but I always knew a marriage should not be two people spending time apart.

My mothers life was here in Texas, and my fathers life was in another country.

It wasn’t until I got older that I realized how much she suffered.
They didn’t have a spiritual relationship because they didn’t know of one even existing and not only did they suffer greatly, but my brothers and I suffered with them.

I watched my mother day in and day out work hard to keep her marriage alive, to put her husbands needs before her own, to tolerate his shortcomings, to hold down everything at home while he was away, and to love him unconditionally.
I’d like to think that I myself am a tough woman in this world but I would not have been as strong as my mother.

As a little girl I knew for a fact that my father was physically stronger than my mother.
However, the older I got, I realized my mother was spiritually, mentally, and emotionally stronger than my father and it really shed some light on which strength was greater. My mother has brought the definition of cheʹsedh or loyal love to life.
My mother has proved to me what it is to be a better daughter, a better sister, a better friend, a better partner, and more importantly a better woman in life.
When I look down at my hand and see her old wedding band on my wedding ring finger, I don’t think of finding a partner, I don’t think of time running out, I don’t dream of my wedding day, I think of her dedication.
I wear this ring as a reminder as to all the sacrifices she made and continues to make, all the extra work and dedication, the patience, the loyalty, the strength, the courage, the power, the wisdom, the control, the love she had and over 34 years later still has towards my father today.


“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”

-1st Corinthians 13: 4-8


-R. Vargas

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